De San Diego A Paris: Surviving a Girl Handbook: Dating in France

Because I had a fantasy of meeting a Frenchman

What could be more romantic than falling in love in the city of love? Almost every girl who studies abroad dreams of falling in love in Paris, even I have passed this stageBut before you go into the world of French men Dating, there are a few things you should know. Before I go any further, I would like to note that during my stay abroad, I did not meet with the French, but made some of my friends and people in my program. I also studied the French Dating customs prior to going abroad because. After watching too many Louis-Gartrell movies, you start dreaming about your own French friend, I admit. Another reason I started studying their condition was to avoid making a stupid mistake and accidentally getting the wrong impression of them. Yes, Dating in France is very different from Dating in the United States, and I'm sure those of you who are engaged to a French friend can agree with that. In the United States, Dating is not considered a big deal, but rather a kind of"proof of a relationship."If you don't like the person you really don't like, there's nothing stopping you from moving on to the next person. An attachment such as kissing or hugging is perfectly normal and is not considered a big problem. The reason Dating isn't an exclusive right from the start is because dates are trying to get to know the other person better. It's time to find out what you like and what you don't like about the game. Isn't it too common for two people to be alone in France? Even a simple trip for coffee can be interpreted as something more serious. Yes, when a man invites you for coffee, it's probably a"big deal". The French take informal meetings, such as coffee or lunch, much more seriously than the Americans. As I have already said, an American-style date with a kiss or hug is quite acceptable and normal. This, of course, is not the case in France.

First of all, it's not one thing to go back to more people

As soon as you kiss someone, they assume that everything is serious and exclusive. The French don't say"let's make it exclusive"to see things that way. But be careful who I kiss. A kiss can cause too much drama if you kiss the wrong person. I remember that this was the case with my friend. She'd kissed a choking Frenchman when she was drunk. I swear it was only a few minutes before the guy started telling everyone that my friend was"the love of his life":"After that night, he thought they were officially a couple, which they certainly weren't, and it was more of a job for him to stop chasing him."If love leads to exclusivity, don't even think about having sex with someone unless you plan to have a relationship. And another thing: the French already have a cliche that is easy for American girls to get, so don't try to find the right cliche. Just as there are guys in the US who are trying to date, there are fat guys in France who are trying to have a stand at night. Please do not fall for the French players and their manipulative methods. It should be like with fat French boys and American girls. It was obvious that the boys motivation was measured by their body language. The girls were in them, and they weren't. This brings the girls more and more wine, but they don't drink nearly as much. I don't know exactly what happened next, but it was clear that they did it was always their drunken intent. This will certainly not be an easy task, but if you find yourself in a situation with a Frenchman, you must have the courage to tell them about the cultural differences when it comes to Dating. The speech can be misinterpreted and even scare the guy away, but if you feel uncomfortable, this should be done. Try to be gentle and calm when you bring up this subject. Tell him that things are moving too fast and that you don't want to be exclusive. Explain how you would like to meet them before everything becomes exclusive, which is the exact opposite of what you want them to be used for. The Frenchman learns their other meanings as soon as things become exclusive.

As an American, don't disrespect their culture.

If you usually like to be gentle during Dating, you should control yourself. Know and respect cultural differences. And a two-way street. You must understand that you are not ready to be exclusive, and you should understand that kissing is an exclusive act of a married couple.

I remember talking to a Frenchman before going to France.

The Facebook message exchange would continue until one day it caught me off guard. He started talking about"my love"even before we met in person. I'm not one to remain silent, so I immediately told him about the cultural differences.

He was not very happy about this and began to advise me to"take more risks".

He also told me to open my heart and how cold I was, that I didn't feel too good, which led to the next topic, rejection.

Although I didn't have a relationship where I had to pretend to"break up"with a guy.

Let me be honest and say that it wasn't easy.

Sometimes ignoring a guy is just inappropriate. When a Frenchman is in love, sometimes you can become obsessed.

I ignored it for a few weeks, and when I was in France, it started sending me uncontrolled messages messages until I got out of my head and blocked it.

But the blockade wasn't enough, he started sending me a message from a friend.

It was ridiculous.

I had to block his friend too much, and after a few months, he finally stopped trying to contact me. I know that a girl from my exchange program also found it very difficult to break up with her French boyfriend. She gave him a"breakup talk"before he finally realized it wasn't going to work. If he hadn't realized that the two of you had just finished Dating. It seems that being friends with your ex is not an option if he is really in love. I may not be the best adviser in this Department, but if you don't understand, it's time to be honest with him. Another suggestion is to ignore it. Ignore text messages, calls, and maybe even block it from Facebook. Do everything in your power to break off communication so that both you and it can happen. I think I gave a lot of advice about bad things happen to the French, but they are not bad people. My French friends are some of the best people you can meet.

So I'm not trying to speak bad French about men, but you have to understand the cultural differences before you decide if you want to date French people.

If you decide to date the French, you expect that the relationship will start with"rags".

The cliche that French men are more romantic seems to be true, so be prepared for a lot of drinking.

Once cultural differences are overcome, the relationship should be very comfortable and fun.

it's easier for guys to meet other guys in Paris because of the many gay bars. How far is it for girls, and it doesn't seem hard to meet other girls. I remember talking about it at a party with an American girl. She said that she had had some bad luck during a semester in Paris. Gay bars are usually full of gays and there aren't that many bars for lesbians. She also noted that French women are very difficult to recognize. I'd like to help there's more here, but unfortunately I don't have any more information about it.

If You are more knowledgeable about gay and lesbian Dating in France, please leave your advice in the comments section below.

Falling in love with Paris is not an easy task, but we hope that this blog post will make things much easier for you. As long as you know about the various costume gatherings and have good intentions, everything should go well for you. You never know, you can find your French love by going abroad. Or at least a good friend.